Fatherhood is a divine experience.
If that resonates, you’re already home.
Vision
Purpose
Values
Core Vectors
Tensions
ease vs good friction
steering vs invitation
digital vs real life
father-first vs kin inclusion
simplicity vs depth
acceptance vs action
perfection vs incrementalism
individual vs collective
Beliefs
There is no perfection in fatherhood, only incrementally better.
Small moments compound into a life of fulfillment, or a life of regret.
You already have everything your family needs from you.
A distracted life is an empty life. We can choose to pay attention.
The bar is shockingly low to treat the people you love better.
Important things don't have to be heavy things.
Quality matters more than quantity.
We are creators, not consumers.
Novelty create memories and memories slow down time.
There is always an opportunity for repair.
Fatherhood is sacred.
It is never too late.
Why fathers?
We are undergoing a societal revolution that is basically positive: men are now involved in raising children. Present day, fathers engage for three times more time with their children compared to 1960.
Reems of data show why this is positive and what occurs when fathers are absent from the child-rearing experience. Yet, men are not provided formal training for the occasion. Our lives and workplaces are not aligned to this new reality. Our cross-generational, cross-gender, cross-functional communication strategy does not magically improve in the delivery room.
The expectations are high. Children’s responses and reactions to us are relative to the love, care, attention, and treatment we offer them. Yet, it’s too easy for them to get treated eventually as the problem or the challenge to be solved, often either with individual therapy or medication.
The answer is not a manual or a YouTube series, although we’re sure many good channels on fatherhood exist. It’s much simpler: refocusing our time and awareness.
If we can see—and seriously ingrain—1). our families and our own position inside of them as our utmost priority and 2). our children’s lives as reflections of our efforts, then we will have no choice but to maintain, cater to, develop, and love a family we’ll be proud to look back on.
85% of fathers said that parenting is the most (24%) or one of the most (61%) important aspects of who they are as a person. We know what are priorities are. But our behavior doesn’t always comply. The average adult, depending on socioeconomic factors, spends between two-four hours per day—14 to 28 hour per week—on social media or bottomless scrolling apps that add virtually no retentive value and fail to impact their professional pursuits. So, we know there is time available to commit to being aware.
These are the moments that matter.
Time, refocused.
Chronos
Kairos
